Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Bob Fickes ~ Relationships


Why is there always so much stuff that we need to deal with when we have a relationship?
This is a big question that every human being wants to understand.
I often think that when I was a monk it was much easier! Then it was only me! So easy!
But Maharishi often said that the life of a monk or single life takes longer to get Enlightenment than the life of someone who is in a relationship!
When we are in a relationship, we have a mirror. We have to look at the reflection of everything we do!
We cannot hide!
The big problem we have in a relationship is…we want our partner to do everything that we want them to do! Control! That is the big issue!

We can’t trust the relationship to go by itself. We want it to go the way our dream wants it to go.
We prefer the dream instead of the reality.
But love is evolution! Through love relationships we can see our self and discover what we have not wanted to look at!
I think all of you who are reading my blog are discovering that the real problem we have in our life is that we want the universe to go the way we want it to go. So we push! We control until we get what we want!
Laotzu, the great Chinese philosopher, once said that the best path of life is to be like water. Water is the most powerful element on Earth. Water can either move a large rock or flow around it. Water always arrives at its goal.
Relationships are like water. Don’t control, just flow!
Relationships are born from a mutual sharing of love. When we flow with love there is always an exchange. Our love goes to our partner and our partner gets stronger and more empowered. Then they give us love and we get more empowered. We make each other strong.
But if the love says do it my way, then something else happens: we both feel pain.
The way of dharma is the way of love without control.
The way of karma is the way of control under the illusion of love that is based on selfishness.
When we go the way of love without control, giving love only for the sake of loving and supporting, then a miracle happens. Love pours into the Infinite and Enlightenment dawns!
When we choose love and give love to this universe, then the universe gives back a thousand times. Love is the key to finding the Infinite. To give without loss is to gain Infinity!
Infinite Love. Infinite Peace. Infinite Joy.

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